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We love creating events that bring our clients together for connection, community, transformation, and healing. Our gatherings are more than just photoshoots—they’re a space to celebrate self-expression, explore creativity, and build lasting friendships. When we come together, something truly magical unfolds, offering each person the chance to grow, be seen, and feel empowered. Join us at our next event and experience the joy of connecting with an incredible community that celebrates you just as you are.

Upcoming Events

7th FEB

Girl's Night Out: Healthy Happy Hour

South Towns Salt Cave: 140 Pine Street, Hamburg, NY, United States, New York

Time: 5:00-9:00

Cost: $35-$60

8th-9th

FEB

FEMINTINES DAY at
The Bird's Nest Circus Arts

Time: 5:00-9:00

Cost: $55-$160

13th FEB

Galentine's Day: Sensual Dance & Posing

Location: Bare By Barrile Studio

Time: 6:00-8:30

Cost: $45.00 Early Bird | $55 Day Of

19th

FEB

Women's Circle

Bare By Barrile Studio

Bare By Barrile Studio, 567 Exchange Street, Suite 202

Time: 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm

Cost: $22

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Emotional Intimacy 101: Getting Closer Without Losing Yourself

October 15, 20251 min read

Emotional Intimacy 101: Getting Closer Without Losing Yourself

We crave closeness. But sometimes in relationships, getting close can feel like losing yourself. The fear of being consumed or controlled keeps many people from fully opening up. True intimacy, however, is about closeness with boundaries.

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What Is Emotional Intimacy?

Emotional intimacy is the ability to share your inner world—your fears, hopes, desires—with another person and feel safe, seen, and accepted. It’s not about merging into one; it’s about connecting authentically while staying rooted in your individuality.

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Why Emotional Intimacy Feels Scary

  • Fear of Rejection: “If I show the real me, will they still love me?”

  • Past Trauma: Old wounds can make vulnerability feel unsafe.

  • Codependency Patterns: When boundaries are blurred, intimacy feels suffocating.

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Building Healthy Emotional Intimacy

  1. Practice Vulnerable Sharing
    Instead of surface-level updates, share what you’re truly feeling. Example: “I’m anxious about work and need some reassurance.”

  2. Listen Without Fixing
    When your partner shares, resist the urge to solve. Instead, reflect back what you hear. Sometimes presence is more healing than advice.

  3. Set Boundaries Clearly
    Boundaries protect individuality. Communicate what feels good and what doesn’t—without apology.

  4. Create Rituals of Emotional Check-Ins
    Weekly or daily check-ins create safety to express needs before resentment builds.

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The Balance of Closeness and Space

Healthy intimacy is a dance. There are moments of deep closeness, and moments of autonomy. Respecting both creates the conditions where love can deepen without either partner losing themselves.

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Emotional intimacy is not about giving yourself up—it’s about showing up as your full self and being loved there.

Ready to deepen intimacy while staying true to yourself? Bare by Barrile’s coaching can help you and your partner build the kind of closeness that strengthens—not erases—you.

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Jill Barrile

Buffalo Ny based photographer and intimacy coach

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